The problem of emotional discord often plagues many individuals, and I am frequently approached by people seeking guidance on how to address this issue.
Here, let me elaborate on a few common and straightforward situations related to Eight Characters (Bazi) and Feng Shui adjustments, providing them for your reference.
1. When the relationship between spouses suddenly becomes lukewarm, fluctuating between good and bad, leading to continuous quarrels and disputes.
Such marital situations are often connected to Feng Shui factors. Therefore, it becomes essential to scrutinize the Feng Shui of your marital bedroom and living space.
If you find a mirror directly facing the bed (which can lead to constant arguments and sensitivity in marital life), irregular angles in the room (resulting in a lack of openness and transparency between spouses), the bed facing a direction conflicting with favorable elements in the individual’s Bazi chart (leading to excessive troubles and restless dreams, resulting in impatience in married life), excessively small or large marital bedrooms (small rooms can lead to narrow-mindedness, while large ones can cause the gradual fading of emotional connections), beams pressing down on the windows (creating a sense of oppressive atmosphere in marital life), dim lighting in the marital bedroom (resulting in confusion and suspicion between spouses), chaotic electric wires outside the bedroom window (causing subtle shifts in marital relationships and unwarranted suspicions), or the marital bedroom door facing the bathroom (leading to health issues and impurity in marital feelings), swift measures must be taken to change or resolve these situations using Feng Shui methods. Sometimes, when residing in a particular room feels detrimental to the marriage, consider changing rooms; this change might contribute significantly to the improvement of the relationship.
2. When both partners do not recognize each other, unwilling to compromise, and conflicts are rampant.
Such situations often arise due to differences in personalities and incompatible energies between spouses. Therefore, it becomes crucial to examine whether the personalities in the Eight Characters of both spouses align or how the influence of different age phases affects the development of their characters.
Firstly, observe whether there are clashes or conflicts in the marriage palace of both spouses’ Bazi charts. For instance, if the day branch in the man’s Bazi chart is Hai and in the woman’s chart it is Si, this is a clash in the marriage palace. If the day branch in the man’s Bazi chart is Xu and in the woman’s chart it is Chou, this is a conflict in the marriage palace. Conflicts or clashes in the marriage palace often suggest irrational behaviors between spouses, an inability to handle emotional matters correctly, and even tension arising from trivial family issues.
To address this issue, both spouses must acknowledge the problem. This can be resolved through self-improvement, such as reading books and elevating one’s cultural and moral standards. Moreover, conflicts can be mitigated and resolved by considering the interactions based on the principles of the Five Elements. For instance, if there are conflicts or clashes in the marriage palaces of both spouses’ Bazi charts, these can be resolved by harmonizing the conflicting elements using the principles of the Five Elements. However, it is imperative to seek guidance from a knowledgeable master, as haphazard attempts might lead to adverse outcomes.
Additionally, assess how the major luck periods (Da Yun) and annual influences impact the marriage palace or spouse stars in the Bazi chart. If both spouses experience such influences, it indicates events that may affect the marriage and emotions of both partners. In such cases, caution is advised. Specific combinations can be resolved through the principles of harmony and conflict within the Five Elements. It is crucial to make both partners aware of the marital issues they may face during the year, ensuring they exercise caution and refrain from actions or words that could further strain the marriage. Such tensions in marital relationships caused by annual influences can be alleviated primarily by waiting, as generally, once the year or specific phase passes, the issues tend to resolve themselves.
3. When the marital relationship becomes overly dull.
From the perspective of Bazi, the main reason for such situations lies in the marriage palace, stars, or the overall pattern of the Bazi, where harmony prevails, and conflicts or combinations are rare. This state indicates a marriage that is neither exceptionally passionate nor cold, a kind of neutrality. Over time, this neutrality may weaken the mutual emotional influence between spouses, leading to fluctuations in the marriage.
In such cases, both spouses need to focus on revitalizing their emotional connection and can consider utilizing Feng Shui and other methods to enhance their relationship. For instance, placing their wedding photos prominently in the bedroom, frequenting aesthetically pleasing locations guided by Feng Shui principles, creating a more intimate ambiance in the bedroom, adjusting the lighting to a softer tone, or cultivating nine pots of flowers on their terrace, wrapping the pots with red paper, can help. However, it is crucial not to place fresh flowers in the bedroom.
Please note that these suggestions are general and might not suit everyone. Individualized advice from a professional Feng Shui expert is advisable for personalized and effective solutions.
